The rules of body languages always tell us that we need to stand straight and be firm so that we look confident around people. That can also make you look like an egomaniac because you're putting too much emphasis on your importance in the room. Just relax your body, step forward, and smile next time and see people are more happy to talk to that version of you.
A killer conversation starter will get people connected towards you. The best way to make a connection is by asking them questions that will keep them talking and deep into the conversation. It's important to know what are the right questions: open-ended ones are great, ones that can be responded with a "yes" or "no" aren't as useful.
This is a no-brainer but you'd be surprised how many people don't follow this one. Eye contact is a good sign of confidence, which people really like. The best part is that it's super easy to learn; just commit to the gaze as you speak to someone.
Who say a little self-deprecating humor wouldn't hurt you? Letting people seeing you look a little silly sometimes shows that you're human, and that adds to your likeability. By admitting to your mistakes, people are more willing to let down their guard around you.
7. Make Everyone Look Awesome When You Introduce Them
When you're trying to make that connection happen between two people for the first time, be the best hypeman you can be. If they're a co-worker, tell them about all those times they covered your shifts. If it's friend or family, use what you know to make them look like a million bucks.
We can be weird about how we take a compliment. Some of us get really awkward about it because we don't expect them, or sometimes ego takes over and screws us over. Master taking it in, and responding to it in a positive way that doesn't make you seem like you're a social outcast.
Here's a big curveball as far as likability is concerned - just shut the hell up for a change. We like hearing our own voice a lot, but it's loads better when you listen. That way, the next time you speak you can add something meaningful to the conversation that will have people liking you even more.
This is about what other people can give back to you, whether they like it or not. If you smile at them, they can involuntarily smile back because body language is weird like that. Smiling at you makes them feel happy, and then you feel happy too, so everyone wins.
It is really tough to pull this off in the modern age where we're all staring at our phones and pushing our social brand. Step out of your narcissist bubble for a moment and help others. If they actually notice that you're putting in the work, then they'll definitely think you're a great person.
Can you hit that balance between having strong work ethic and hobbies and know how to cut loose? If so then congrats - the world will love you to no end. Knowing how to work hard and have fun means that people will come towards you thinking you are dependable.
You gotta be the realest person you can be for people to get close to you. No one likes a fake person, it's hard to like someone they can't trust. And the truth is, you're more confident when you know who you are, as confidence goes a long way with people.
Even if we are complicated messes of people, it wouldn't hurt to try to understand them a little more. Don't let the details of this bring you down. Experience it, learn from it, and use it as the tools to make people think you're awesome.