So, you want to keep eating fries every day for dinner and spend your salary on shoes or vacations every month? You can do that. Of course you can, damn it, you’re an adult. But, I’m here to tell you that as an adult, those perks — the salary, the living on your own…etc. come with a slew of responsibilities.
So maybe you should do yourself a favor and start adulting, even if you really don’t feel like it to avoid the headaches that come with being an adult. Like your salary for instance. If you have a decent income, if you’re proud of how much money you’re finally making, then you shouldn’t be spending it all on frivolous things. Get yourself a financial app, give yourself a budget and start saving.
Sounds like I’m talking to a five-year-old but no, I’m fully aware that you’re past the preschool age. And yet, learning to be an adult also includes learning to be kind. Gossiping and mean comments are for kids. Don’t waste your energy on being a jerk; be kind instead.
When we were kids, cartoons and chocolate cereal were the reasons we got out of bed in the morning. During our adolescent age, it was the guy at the back of the class or the girl in the park that drove us out of the house. Well, now that you’re an adult, you still need that something that gets you fired up in the morning. Find something that gives you meaning — real meaning, not a donut with sprinkles, and let it give you the fire you need every morning.
It’s not like we don’t have fancy calendar apps to lure us into planning our days. You’re an adult now which means you’re busy, you’ve got goals, people who want to see you, laundry that needs to get done, groceries that need to be bought and a thousand other reminders you cannot forget. So, what are you waiting for? Plan everything! Plan laundry days and coffee dates. Plan workouts and work meetings. Plan calling your mother (especially your mother) and your best friend’s birthday. Adulting is about being on top of everything.
Look, you don’t have to turn into a clean freak. You don’t even have to break out into song every time you tidy up (although, it’s fun. You should try it, at least once). But, you can learn to be tidier so that your home is always clean and you don’t have to waste whole days to clean up a huge mess. Rinse your breakfast bowl every morning before work. Put dirty clothes in the laundry basket and hang everything else. Vacuum often to remove fluff and foot prints. Tidying up is not that complicated if you simply make a conscious decision not to be so messy.
Eating pizza or cookies every night is fun when you’re young but when you start growing older, you learn that this food is just making you gain weight and feel more tired. You don’t have to go full on healthy with complicated salads and 10 ingredient recipes. Just go for more natural foods and try to eat as clean as possible for a good five days out of the week if you can. Your mind and your body will thank you.
One thing about being an adult is that you don’t have your parents around to make you own up to something you did. Still, there will be that inner voice inside of you, telling you that what you did was wrong. Bastard, I know, but why keep torturing yourself with guilt when you can simply own up to your mistakes? You can handle whatever comes your way, so whatever it is you’ve done, just own up to it, apologize and try to make amends.
As children, we all dreamed of changing some people we know by making them happier, less grumpy, less this or more of that. As adults, however, we have to start accepting the fact that we can’t always change people. It’s actually very hard to do so. Accordingly, instead of trying to change people, we need to start meeting them half way and accepting the fact that this is how they are.
Look, you’re not four anymore. Time is going by — fast. As an adult, there comes a point where you realize that there’s no more time to waste. No more procrastination. No more skipping the important stuff to hang out with your friends. This is the moment in your life where you must invest in your time wisely. Don’t waste it on the things that don’t matter.
That thing your mother told you at Christmas which offended the hell out of you? Let it go. Yes, it hurts and yes, people can be annoying but you need to let things go. If you know that what’s being said about you isn’t real anymore and you know you’re a different person now, then don’t waste time on these things. Just let things go.
So you do Pilates because people have told you it strengthens your back even though you gnaw your teeth during the whole hour because you hate it so much. If you hate Pilates, stop doing it. Stop doing things simply because they’re said to be good for you. Yes, you need to nourish your soul. Yes, you need to be healthy, you need to move, you need to work hard but that doesn’t mean you always have to do the things you hate. Go for a run, if that’s what you prefer. You can’t always be so hard on yourself.
Remember that calendar app I told you to start using? Well, use it to mark down your yearly medical check-ups too. Doctor, dentist, gynecologist and whoever else is part of your medical entourage. Your mother can’t always be the one to force you to check yourself. You’ve got to start doing these things for yourself, even though they are an annoyance.
…To feel amazing. I’m not talking about having to wear 5-inch heels or have your hair sleeked back. This is not about fitting in some kind of beauty rules. This has got to do with you and how you present yourself. You want to look amazing so you can feel amazing. Looking good means you give a damn about yourself and people should give a damn about you too.
One of the hardest lessons we learn as adults is that our parents aren’t there anymore to do things for us. You need to stop expecting people to do things for you. From medical appointments to taking responsibility, you need to accept the fact that being an adult means being responsible, no matter how annoying or difficult the task is.
Honestly, if you’re still not true to yourself even in your adult years, then you must be tired. Aren’t you tired already? It’s exhausting trying to be someone you’re not. Who the hell cares who you love, what you enjoy and what you think? Unless you’re causing any harm to the world, then you have a right to live the way you want to live. Please stop faking it now. Start adulting stat and stop being someone you’re not.