Sex should be hot and heavy and get you all wrapped up in the moment. If you are thinking about doing your laundry and how you need to buy more dog food, chances are that either you are bad in bed and they are bad in bed. Get into it, live in the moment and put a little effort into it. If you do, you may be good at it after all. Or maybe not. But at least try!
How can you be good in the sack if you aren't telling your partner what you need and asking them what they need? Don't just go through the motions, get into it! Saying what you need and asking them what they need is a huge turn on.
Do you feel bad after you do it. Do you feel shameful or yucky? If so, maybe you aren't good at this whole casual sex thing? You should feel amazing after it and if you are feeling any other way maybe you aren't doing it right or maybe you aren't doing it with the right person.
I know you want to be having sex with your favorite porn star but you aren't. You don't know if your partner wants their hair pulled or if they want to be choked. Pay attention to your partner in the room in that moment and stop thinking about mimicking your favorite porn instead. This is not a scene in Assablanca. This is real life.
If you guys are sleeping together, you should feel comfortable about talking to them about sex. You shouldn't be rolling around with each other if you can't talk about anything sex related before or after sex. Talk about what you liked, what you don't like and how fun it was! Loosen up a little! THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN!
If you do the same three things every time, I'm going to guess that your partner is bored. Switch it up a little. Spice things up! Try having sex in new rooms and in different positions. Keep it fresh and get away from missionary, doggie style and back to missionary again. BORING.
Sure, sex smells a little funky sometimes but it should be a fun smell. It shouldn't be a bad smell so please keep your junk clean! If you want them to get all in there, it's only right. Come on! You know better.
If you don't know what you want, how can you expect them to know what to do for you? Explore you body. Learn what works for you and what doesn't and get in touch with your sexy self! Oh, and also touch your sexy self!
If you are thinking about your fat rolls, your performance is definitely not up to par. I promise you that they will still want to have sex with you, fat rolls and all. This is your time to go for it! Let go of any insecurities and try to have a little fun.
If it's super awkward it could be a few different things. Maybe they feel weird about rolling in the hay and being casual? Maybe you aren't letting your guard down. Or maybe it was really really bad and they are plotting their escape.
Stop thinking about your goddamn orgasm and focus on theirs. You may not get off and that's okay. It can still be really really great! The foreplay is the best part if you think about it. Enjoy each other, make each other feel amazing and don't worry about coming. Your day will come. Or you'll come one day. Whatever!
You thought the sex was good but then they never ever called you again. Maybe they had a girlfriend and needed to disappear? Maybe they moved to another country. Maybe they died? Or maybe your star fish move didn't do it for them. Hey, everyone's got their thing.
If a man turns down a blowjob than you know it's bad. It's possible that they feel dirty down there or maybe they are insecure about the size of their wang. It's probably you. But that's okay, they have classes for that!