You guys used to text all day, but now hours go by before they respond. If their response time has slowed down out of the blue, they may be distancing themselves from you. Be careful, because they could be getting ready to ghost you. 

They used to ask how your day was or how your week went. Now you have noticed that they never ask what is going on with you anymore. If they seem uninterested in your life, then they may be just that. Uninterested. 

If you guys were once super close, they know that you will worry if they suddenly drop off. They know you. They know that your mind will race wondering if they got home okay. They know that you’ll be concerned as to why you haven’t heard from them. If they don’t care about your feelings, it’s likely that they’ve started to check out of the relationship. 

Little by little the “good morning” and “goodnight” texts fade away. The “thinking of you” texts are non-existent and you keep looking at your phone obsessing over why you never hear from them anymore. It’s time to get out. 

You feel like you are always texting or calling them. You are always checking in with them and always available to them. What would happen if you stopped reaching out all together? Would you hear from them? If they answer is no, it’s time to move on. 

You may notice them going out a lot without you. They start mentioning new friends or groups of people. If they are keeping you away from these groups instead of including you, there is a reason. 

All of a sudden, they start getting really flaky with you. They keep forgetting that you made plans or they are always running late, or perhaps they keep cancelling on you last minute.They are showing you that you are not that important so you should focus on yourself instead. 

You find that you are the one always initiating the next time you are going to see each other. What if you didn’t make the plans? Would they try to see you at all? Maybe you need to try it to find out. 

They second they say that they have been “really busy,” you should run. Run far, far away! You are never too busy to fit the people that are important to you into your life. 

And the second you start saying, “but they’ve been busy” you need to take a good look at the situation. If you find yourself making excuses for them to yourself and to others, you need to look inward. They are messing with you and you know it. 

They have ghosted you before so they are bound to do it again. Once someone ghosts then it is hard to trust them. Be realistic with yourself and pay attention to the signs that they are giving you. Once a ghoster, always a ghoster. 

If you two started hot, it may be fizzling out. Sometimes when it starts with a bang, it can crash and burn fast. You can tell when things start to shift, it’s just up to you to accept it. 

If they pull the, “I’m not looking for anything serious” talk with you GET OUT. THEY ARE TELLING YOU THAT THEY ARE ABOUT TO GHOST, SO YOU BETTER LISTEN. Have I made myself clear?

When the two of you hang out, they seem distracted. They aren’t really listening when you speak, they forget things that you already talked about and they keep looking at their phone. If they seem uninterested, chances are that they are and they are about to bounce. 

Always, always trust your gut. And your mom. Your mom and your gut are usually right.