The quarter-life crisis is real, and it’s in full swing when you’re a twenty-something. There’s nothing to make you feel worse than the fact that you have an expensive college degree and you’re still not using it for anything. And it also doesn’t help that you still have no idea what you want to be when you grow up…
Once you hit a certain age, it seems like literally everyone around you is getting engaged or expecting a baby. Meanwhile, you’re just sitting here trying to figure out what kind of takeout food you’re going to get for dinner.
Mexican or Thai? The struggle is real.
4. ...And Then Everyone Wonders Why You Aren't Doing The Same
Everyone from your grandma to your best friend who just got married last month wonders how the hell you’re still single after all these years! And you better get on it because your biological clock is tickin’ away! Meanwhile, you secretly wonder if maybe you really will be single forever...
It sometimes seems odd to you that anyone would trust you to remember to pay all of your bills on time, or to feed your pet fish, or to take out the trash. When someone asks you how old you are, occasionally you have to stop and think about it for a second and remember that you’re 27, not 17. But somehow, you’re making it work.
After all, you aren’t dead yet and that’s an accomplishment in and of itself!
6. ...Yet You Start Seeing The First Signs Of Aging
Wait, this makes no sense...how can you possibly feel like a 17-year-old, but have just spotted your first smile lines? Or maybe even a gray hair! And on top of that, you just don’t get as excited about your birthdays anymore, ever since you turned 21. What gives?
You’re in an important transitional phase right now where you’re going from eating Top Ramen every night to having actual home-cooked food, and that’s a great step to becoming a real adult! (But it’s totally okay if you actually really like Top Ramen and sometimes you just have to have it.)
8. You Can't Afford To Do All The Things That You Want To Do
On your to-do list: travel to Iceland, try every five-star sushi restaurant in the city, buy that pair of shoes you’ve been eyeing for months...Oh wait, but you don’t get paid until the end of the month and there are bills to pay first. Guess those things will have to wait…
You just got hired at a fancy new job, and of course...everyone still treats you like the office intern and asks you “which college you go to,” even though you’ve been out of school for five years now. And on top of that, you’re also paid the least of anyone in your office by far.
You were out last night with friends and had two glasses of wine, and this morning you woke up with the world’s worst headache. You remember college fondly, when you could knock back six or seven shots and still have enough energy to go for a run the next day. What the heck happened?
This is one of life’s most persistent questions that we may never know the answer to, but it’s clearly a rite of passage into adulthood.
11. All Of Your Friends Are Moving To Different Cities
After college, it seemed like everyone just started to disperse. Between job offers in different cities and moving back to hometowns, it’s harder than ever to get your old friend group back together! But look on the bright side: when your friends do come to visit, it’s a good excuse to party, for old times’ sake!*
It’s tough to balance all of life’s expenses, from your rent to your health insurance, to gas money and, oh yeah, you have to fit food in there too somehow. And because you likely don’t have anyone holding your hand through all of it anymore, it can seem pretty stressful to budget everything properly.
But remember: when in doubt, it’s always good to start a savings account for emergencies! You know, if you can afford to save on what they pay you at work.
And hey, it’s tough not to feel like that at times when you see your friend’s Facebook posts about how they just aced their law school exam, or that other friend who’s spending six months living in Cambodia.
It’s hard not to compare yourself sometimes, but just remember that everyone progresses through life at their own pace, and there’s nothing wrong with that!
Being in your twenties is a time to learn about yourself and determine what kind of person you ultimately want to be. That might mean that you’ll have the occasional existential crisis, or that you’ll feel intense pangs of jealousy toward your friends’ lives, but at the end of the day, you aren’t alone!
And remember, if worse comes to worst, your thirties are right around the corner!